I’m taking a detour from my usual short posts to share something with you about a menopause health issue that may seem coarse – maybe even too intimate. But I’m certain many women suffer with it. In turn this problem also affects those who love these silently suffering women.
When I was going through alternative approaches to heal from cancer, I was very open about my feelings and what was happening in my body. I kept a log online that anyone could read. Some thought I was crazy; some thought I was brave; and still others were inspired by my courage.
In all the talks I’ve given, the blogs and videos I’ve created, I try to share my story and convey that I am still ‘a work in process.’ I’m no super woman who has it all together. I’m simply a woman who is determined to heal in every aspect, and I try to share what I’ve learned with you who are on the same path.
So I’m creating this post to be as open and honest as I possibly can be about a topic that I have never yet heard anyone talk about. Doctors don’t even have a viable solution for this condition. So it’s scary to make myself this vulnerable. But I trust that my words will once again inspire others.
The Basic Problem and WHY It’s a Problem
Are you in a committed and loving relationship with someone? Do you enjoy the sensuality and closeness of a physical relationship with that person? Or would you like to have that?
Humans are blessed with an extraordinary capacity for experiencing pleasure in love-making. All the touch, the play, the eroticism up to actual coitus serves to bond the participants in a deeply nourishing gift. When you feel your partner’s heartbeat next to yours and you feel his or her pleasure escalating – their energy – you connect with that person beyond just the physical. This connection sustains the relationship and supports our own feeling of well-being. A healthy physical relationship is an important part our overall health because it reaffirms our sense of being loved, of acceptance, and attractiveness.
But what if you could no longer have that intimacy? What if a woman’s vaginal opening had become so tight she wouldn’t even be able to insert a tampon or slim toy if she wanted? What if she had pain and burning with any attempt at penetration?
This is what I have struggled with for years. It started with the estrogen-positive cancer, and the need to immediately stop the massively high dose of hormone replacement therapy (HRT). I had already been in menopause for years, but the HRT kept me young in a sense. Without it, the glands in my body quickly started to dry up; the vaginal tissue became less elastic, thinner, and the opening shrank. Any breast cancer survivor on anti-hormonal therapy most likely will experience these same problems. Some women even develop this after pregnancy. Perhaps you’ve experienced dry skin, or dry eyes as you age? It’s the same concept.
My condition reached a point where inserting anything was too painful and my partner didn’t want to inflict any more on me. While I was emotionally willing and wanting, my body simply couldn’t. For some women, these conditions can result in decreased sensations or libido as well. From this understanding, it’s no wonder so many women entering menopause have little sexual desire. They talk about hot flashes and weight gain, but the rest of the symptoms are simply too embarrassing to admit. I actually felt shame for my condition. I felt that I was letting my partner down and not participating as I wanted to.
The gynecologist I visited prescribed Clobetasol, which my body rejected in my personal energy testing. I also didn’t relish the long-term side effects of using a steroid. So I searched the internet and tried everything I could find. Vitamin E didn’t work; Sea buckthorn oil didn’t work; Gynatren, douches, antiseptics, essential oil, olive oil, lubricants – nothing worked.
The solution came to me in yet another internet search. This time I found the name for my condition. The symptoms of itching, dryness, atrophy, burning, and a foul, somewhat fishy odor are called vaginosis, and painful or uncomfortable sex is called dyspareunia.
The product I found that changed all this is NeuEve. It is suppositories of varying strengths and an optional cream, all formulated with food-grade plant-sourced ingredients (a super benefit for me because of my extreme chemical sensitivities.) The ingredients are palm oil, beeswax, vitamin E, orange oil, and a patented proprietary blend of amino acids and vitamins that nourish the vaginal mucous tissues.
That’s the key – ‘nourish.’ To use the dry eyes analogy again, you can place lubricating drops in the eyes, but it’s only temporary relief; within a day or less, the eyes will be dry again because the glands that produce the moisture dry up as we age.
NeuEve is different. It doesn’t just give temporary relief; it actually works to restore the glands that produce the mucus and elasticity of the vagina by providing nutrients to the local tissue. So it REVERSES atrophy, relieves itching, burning, dryness, odors, and has the potential to improve orgasms. To my mind, it is nothing short of brilliant!
About the Company
The company and product were created by Dr. Renjie Chang, M.D., M.S. She worked as an Ob-Gyn in the Peking Union Hospital in China, was a faculty member of Ob-Gyn at University of Omaha Health Sciences Center, and was a drug developer at the Abbott Laboratories in Chicago. She established her company, Lavax, Inc., with grants from NIH and Gates Foundation to develop an innovative vaginal microbiocide for preventing sexually transmitted disease. Her NeuEve products became a spin-off of this innovative technology. In other words, she knows her stuff!
Right now it’s a very small company in terms of staffing, but they are most personable and quick to reply to questions and help select the appropriate strength to start with. There are lots of raving reviews on the website, and Dr. Chang tells me that to date, over 50,000 women have benefited from NeuEve. The oldest one is 86!
In full disclosure, I want you to know that I received two months-worth of product, and agreed to write a review in exchange. I am happy to report, that even if I hadn’t received this free product, I would still be touting its praises because the product has been a god-send for me. I can now look forward to an intimate relationship again, something I feared I would never be able to full enjoy again.
Very little. Because they are natural products that work to restore, not just cover up temporarily, they do take a bit of time. It was two months before the odor banished and I started to experience a significant difference in symptoms. In the grand scheme of things, two months is pretty insignificant. Patient partners can enjoy experimenting and discovering through the progress.
The other thing you need to understand is that the restoration of the glands is not permanent. Aging will eventually begin to take its toll again without regular use of the product. That said, most of us spend money on HRT, supplements, memberships to clubs or gyms, health insurance, organic foods, and maybe even sexy undergarments and erotic toys. We invest in ourselves. We find the means for those products or services that help us, give the results we want, and make us feel good. NeuEve products fit in that category.
If you or a loved one is struggling with vaginosis or dyspareunia, you are not alone. There is no shame in these conditions and there is nothing you’ve done to cause them. Neither are they ‘use it or lose it’ conditions. For example, if you don’t walk for 10 years your leg muscles can become atrophied. But these vaginal tissues are directly related to the reduction of hormones, not to muscular activity. They are natural symptoms of aging and there is no reason why we need to hide this and suffer in silence any longer. We just need to get over our shame – and that’s a big one for me. So thank you for letting me share, and for your continued interest.
You’ve heard me say many times that I want to help people age with less pain and more energy. I recommend any woman with these conditions try NeuEve products for less painful, more pleasurable sexual activity and increased sexual energy. Can you imagine the emotional impact on your self-esteem, on your feeling of attractiveness, and your relationship with your partner? We don’t have to dry up and grow old!
P.S.To learn how to use an energy test for yourself, read further: https://www.moveintomindfulness.com/
P.S.S. I like this product so much, I’ve been telling my friends and YOU about it ever since I started using it. So as of 08/09/2018 I have become a NeuEve affiliate. That means, if you purchase something from them after this date, I may receive a small commission. I just wanted you to know that, but commission or not, it’s still a great product. It took about a year for me to get the full results I was after, but it’s definitely worth it. With patience, time, and NeuEve, you’ll be feeling much better and back in the swing of things!